Could it be?

The other day while driving I had one of those ah-ha moments. It was about being happy. Some time ago I wrote about my mom always telling me I was unhappy when I was younger. To this day, she continues to reference me as an unhappy child and how she tried so hard to "help." …

Do You Regret..the Divorce?

I have asked my close friend this very question on more than one occasion. Do you regret the divorce? Her answer - yes. She would have stayed married if she had known how things would have turned out when she got a divorce. Her ex-husband was extremely hurt by the divorce. The hurt morphed into …

Epiphany

Just got back from a run. No longer running with headphones listening to music, I listen to the sound of my breath, my sneakers hitting the ground, and the vibrations of my thoughts. Suddenly during this run, it hit me. My ex-husband is a version of my mother. Their personalities are plagued with anger and …

Serendipity

Just last weekend I had the good fortune of being invited to a house party to watch the movie "Bad Moms." Because it was a friend of a friend, I was in a way the "odd man out." It was a group of women who all lived in a particular neighborhood...except for me. While the …

Who is the Expert Anyway?

Is there such a thing as an expert when it comes to divorce? When we too often follow the opinions of others and what mainstream is doing, we lose our "expertise." Taking bits and pieces from here and there can help, but overriding our instincts, that deep-in-the-belly feeling of what is right and what is wrong, can …