Connection

During yoga today, the teacher read an excerpt at the beginning of class and then once again at the end of class. It resonated.

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” – Brene Brown

The search for the quote when I got home, led me to it’s original author and a talk she presented on vulnerability. It was lighthearted but thoughtful. It’s about being authentic, and true, and of course vulnerable. I think it’s worth watching maybe even more than once.

 

During this talk she spoke of courage which reminded me of a quote that also resonated with me on Instagram about a week ago. How ironic that she was the author of the quote as well?

Being able to tell all the chapters of my heart can lead to connection when the person they are presented to has the capacity to open the chapters, read the chapters, and love me all the same. And of course vice-versa.

Here’s to courage, vulnerability, and connection.

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Stepping Back

I like to think of myself as someone who doesn’t quit, who fights for what I believe in, who doesn’t give up. I think that’s a big reason why I struggle with coming to terms with the divorce. I feel like I quit. I do know it’s much bigger, much more grey than black and white. But when I observe others not fight, not try, not do what they can to move mountains, I admit it bothers me. Particularly when it comes to my oldest son. D does not have a good relationship with his father. In fact, he doesn’t have much of a relationship at all. This is nothing new. Not a result of the divorce. I had actually, naively, hoped their relationship would improve with the separation and divorce. Some feel my ex-husband was/is jealous of D because D took attention away from him. But as long as I can remember, there has been a tension that exists between the two of them. Honestly, I am downright appalled sometimes at the direct attacks at D from his father. To say this rips my heart into tiny pieces is an understatement. Along the way, I have created opportunities for them to bond; I push for them to spend time together; I often act as a middle-man trying to calm situations. But no more. It’s not my relationship to save. And as hard as it is to see their relationship crumble even more, I know it’s the right thing to do – step back. My ex-husband feels as though he is trying and I do believe he feels like he has gone above and beyond. As long as he feels this way, things won’t improve. One first needs to realize the problem in order to fix the situation. And so I am reminded of the Serenity Prayer:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

As a matter of fact, this Prayer will be helpful in other aspects of my life too.

Have there been times in your life when you have had to hesitantly step back?

 

courage

Words of others..inspiration

strength

and courage

daily thoughts, dizzy with exhaustion

emotions scrambled

lost?

a deep breath, exhale

don’t wait, let it be now

suddenly, a game of hopscotch

becomes a prom

and at once a wedding, a birth

a life, destined

a crooked path, always eager

for all, thankful

a medley of choice, a woven curtain

to hide, to protect?

yes, for it is now.